December 8th, 2020

storyteller doll

Couples' Friendships

I survived getting up at 0-dark-30 to take my friend to her medical appointment. I was home by about 9:30 in the morning, finished reading my book club book, and slept for a few hours after lunch. But I am going to have an early night of things tonight.

Anyway, book club was tonight and we discussed Crossing to Safety by Wallace Stegner. I enjoyed the book for the most part. It has to do with the friendship between two couples and I found myself thinking about how rare it is that there is that sort of friendship. Usually, one half of each couple are friends and the partners just tag along. For example, my mother had two good friends she'd gone to high school with. My father got along fine with their husbands, but they weren't close the way the women were. Similarly, my father had two friends from work, who came out to our hose from time to time. One of them more or less disappeared after he got married. And, again, while my parents continued to see the other one after he got married, my mother and his wife didn't really stay in touch after my father died.

There was one couple who lived across the street from us that my parents were both friendly with, but it was also a different situation because they were a lot older than my parents. I wonder if the friendship in the novel only works because both members of one couple have nobody else, both being orphans. This entry was originally posted at https://fauxklore.dreamwidth.org/478571.html. Please comment there using OpenID.